Archive for March, 2012

ARE YOU GETTING THE RUN AROUND??

Here’s your situation: You are in need of something from a professional place of business. Whether it be work, service, a product, or the resolution of an issue, all you want is that chance to speak your mind and get what you desire. After going through the Chain-of-Command of professionals, you get to the big guy…The man in charge. Now you feel as though you are going to get the help you want.

Here’s another situation: Maybe you don’t need anything from a business, but want something from a family member or a friend. Quite possibly you could be interested in a potential mate and you want desperately to get that chance with them. Soon, however, you begin to realize that people are giving you the RUN AROUND. Once you get to that point, you need to figure out if what you want from that person or company is worth the time and effort to get past the run around and get your results.

What exactly is the run around?

Basically, the run around is a specific set of lies/actions meant to keep you in a loop of expectation without actually giving you what you want. The person giving you the run around never had the intention of fulfilling your desires in the first place. So they give you the run around hoping that you will “get the hint” after awhile and give up. This is not to be confused with someone who has a really busy or hectic life or schedule and just can’t set the time aside for you. Their intentions may be well, and they more than likely want to address your needs or meet with you, but the timing is not right.

See, what’s happening when you get the run around is that your intended target doesn’t see the value in who you are or what your needs are. Maybe you haven’t placed enough value on what you desire? Maybe you haven’t placed enough value on yourself? Maybe there has been no sense of urgency surrounding your situation? No matter what the question is, the answer is the same: you’re getting nowhere fast with this person. After awhile you feel like giving up because either you believe that your target is too busy or you know they are giving you the run around.

How do you know this? Well, if you’re in tune with own intuition, you should be able to pick up on it. May not be right away, but you’ll pick up on it. If you’re not in tune with your intuition, then you need to observe a few things.

1st things 1st:

Let’s check the situation. Just because you feel you’re situation deserves much needed attention, that doesn’t mean it does. How serious are your needs? Dire? Extreme? Light? Can you make it through life without having that meeting with an old friend? Will you be able to function if you never see the store manager for a customer service or product related issue? Does your project have to be seen by this potentially influential individual or can you find someone else with the same clout and influence somewhere else?

2ndly:

Let’s check your interactions. Are you able to talk to your target? What was that like? Did they sound sincere in their voice? Did they rush you off the phone, out of their office, or away from the meeting area? Were they asking questions of you to get as much info as necessary? Did they make claims to have the time available only to reschedule time and time again? Do you FEEL put off? DOES IT FEEL LIKE YOUR TARGET SEEMS TO BE BOTHERED BY YOU? Do you find yourself contacting them over and over again, with barely any reply?

Lastly:

Let’s check yourself. Were you frustrated by your situation from the beginning? Do you know your target’s current situation? Were you polite when you contacted your target? Have you been able to place value on resolving the situation or having your needs met? DO YOU FIND YOURSELF CONTACTING YOUR TARGET OFTEN? Do you lack the patience needed to deal with a potential “run around” situation?

So now that you’ve asked yourself these questions and answered them, what overall conclusion have you come to? Are you getting the run around?

Here are some things to consider:

When interacting face to face – Check your target’s overall posture, gestures, and facial expressions. Make sure they are paying attention to you as you speak. Paying attention doesn’t mean staring. For all that they could be looking through you, not at you. Look at their posture. If it seems like they are bored or uninterested, they probably are. Watch their gestures because if they are fiddling with things like their pockets or other devices, writing or anything that doesn’t seem to be involving you, then it may be that you’re not that important to them and they feel as long as they are there to hear you speak that will satisfy you. Check out their tone of voice. Does it seem like they really want to speak?

Listen to their excuses – If you know their situation, the excuses for giving you the run around will either be valid or invalid. For example: A manager looking to hire someone quickly will not give you the run around if they feel you are a quality candidate for work. So if they schedule for an interview, then cancel without a reschedule, chances are you will get the run around. Remember, everyone who works knows their schedule so they know when they are available. Especially managers.

Knowing when someone is giving you the run around is more about feeling and intuition than facts or timing. Trust your gut instincts and know when to either give up or push the issue more. My next blog will tell you how to stop a person from giving you the run around.

Good luck in your efforts.

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Here’s the story of two great friends. One’s called Life, the other one is called Death. They’re about the same age, same height, same build, same complexion, all of that. Not to mention they are completely inseparable.

No one knows why Life and Death are such great friends. Quite literally they are polar opposites. Yet Life’s mother, Mrs. Nature, and Death’s Father, Mr. Time, both say that the universe cannot exist or thrive without them.

Life was created to bring his mother’s physical creations into being. She explained to Life that each living being or entity that he brings into existence serves a purpose. Once that purpose has been served, then their is no longer a need for that creation to exist physically. At which point Mr. Time sends his son Death to meet and bring an end to Nature’s creation.

At first, Life didn’t like the notion of these beautiful creations being terminated. All he wanted was to preserve their existence. Life saw no need for Death. He thought that Death brought nothing but pain and sorrow. It wasn’t until his mother explained to him that her creations never truly died, they just ceased to exist physically where they were born. The energy of these creations are either resurrected in the cosmic plant for use in other areas of the universe or they will made anew in a new physical host in the same place they were.

Only a creation that fails to live up to its purpose no matter where they are in the universe will be completely removed from existence.

Mrs. Nature then told her son about the great cosmic imbalance that had to be harmonized. Once before, many millennia ago, Nature’s creations came to be but never ceased to exist. Those creations that gained intelligence saw that existence had no real purpose. They grew in size, population, and intelligence. Soon there was nothing but war, pain, strife, and unhappiness all across the cosmos. The energetic forces that held the “stitches” of the universe together started to fade away allowing the stitches to rip thereby tearing the very fabric of the universe apart.

The rulers of the universe (Time, Space, Nature, Vibe, Math, and Intelligence) needed a means to bring balance back to the cosmos. Mr. Time decided to introduce his own creation: Death. Mrs. Nature explained that, at first, she saw no need for Death. However, Math and Intelligence knew that Death’s existence would bring purpose to Nature’s creations, but in order for this to work, Nature would have to have to bring her creations into being without the power of cosmic manifestation, which was Nature’s usual means of bringing her creations into being.

So Nature created Life and Life gave each one of her creations a purpose before succumbing to Death. Once Death was brought upon Nature’s original creations, Life came into the comsic plant and took the energies of some of the dead creations (the ones that remained faithful to purpose), and infused them with some of Nature’s newest creations. Soon, with the aid of Mr. Time, balance was restored to the cosmos and the fabric of the universe was “stitched” back together.

Once balanced was restored, Mrs. Nature and Mr. Time introduced Life and Death to one another, for they were never to meet until the universe had harmony again (which pleased Dr. Vibe immensely).

At first, Life felt Death was a crass and senseless being. Death felt Life was petty and juvenile. Their friendship came to be after they both planned and executed great cosmic prank. It wasn’t funny to Nature, Time, or any of the other rulers of the Universe, but both Life and Death thought it was hilarious. After awhile, Life and Death’s bond grew so strong, they became inseparable.

Now anywhere in the universe that Life goes, Death follows and is never far away and vice versa.